Foreplay isn’t just for the bedroom.

Here are some things you can do to make the leading up to sex (almost) as good as the sex itself. And, using “foreplay” or “forecare” for a BDSM scene, you can really amp up the pleasure in your BDSM play.

What a lot of people might not realize is that there are many aspects of BDSM that do not include sexual contact or activities at all.

This article provides some examples of the glorious non-sexual aspects of BDSM.

I say “no more” to this “vanilla shaming.” Don’t “yuck” someone’s else’s vanilla “yum.”

Here are some reasons why vanilla is awesome, and why you don’t have to be kinky to have good sex.

My take on “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz.

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
4. Always Do Your Best