Boundaries Crossed: Part 2 How to deal with crossed boundaries or a consent violation as a sub/bottom. Consent Accidents Consent violations can also include consent accidents. A consent accident is when someone pushes past your boundaries mistakenly. However, a mistaken consent violation is still a violation, even if the person didn't mean to do it […]

Boundaries Crossed In this lesson, I'll be going over what needs to happen when there's been a consent violation. First and foremost, if you're the one who violated consent and your partner has come to you: Be patient with them, open to what they have to say, and sensitive to their emotions. Act with dignity, […]

Impacting Factors of Giving Consent The overarching goal of consent discussions in the context of BDSM and kink play is not just to “acquire consent,” but to cultivate the conditions under which honesty is possible and safe. To that end, we must be able to readily identify factors that can alter or impede this safe […]

Basics of Consent: Fries With the emergence of the #metoo movement, there has been even more talk about “consent” in our culture and the media. Typically, the conversation around consent has focused on the lack thereof. For example, sexual assault or harassment. In the BDSM community, “consent” has a workable definition. It exists, ideally, to […]